Global Efforts to Eradicate HIV

Month: November 2018

Things To Remember About Dating If You’re HIV Positive


Trying to find someone who can be the love of your life, the center of your universe, is not easy for everyone. It is rare to meet that person the first time you go on a date. Typically, many prospects are available, but you need to weed through them all to realize which ones have real intentions to know you and be with you and not merely try to get in your pants. According to Francisco Sastre, PhD and co-authors, “HIV diagnosis does not necessarily deter men from having an active sexual life, marrying, or having children.” In fact, for some of the men, engaging in these social and life-changing events is part of moving on and normalizing life with HIV

The challenge of dating tends to increase by a hundredfold, however, if you are carrying human immunodeficiency virus. Considering it is a viral infection that may react well with medication when diagnosed in its early stages, people should not be afraid of going out with you. Unfortunately, no matter how welcoming the world seems for folks living with HIV, the stigma that the disease came with remains intact in the heart and mind of many.



If you genuinely want to end your singlehood and find the one for you, you should remember these things:


  1. Don’t Expect Anything On The First Date

The primary aspect to evoke in your system is that you should not hold your hopes too high the first time you talk to a prospective life partner. You may have only spoken about each other’s likes and dislikes, for instance, yet in your brain, you may already be imagining the two of you growing old together and watching your grandkids play. To avoid getting hurt, take control of your emotions and let the events unfold without expectations.

  1. Not Everyone Will Understand, And That’s Okay

Another fact that you ought to not forget is that the number of non-judgmental fellows is growing, but the folks who may frown upon your condition or try to make you feel ashamed of wanting to date despite your situation are still out there too. You can consider yourself lucky if you can meet the former; regardless if you end up together or not, you won’t feel discriminated. Nonetheless, even when you come across the latter type, you should not let whatever they might say affect your mental state because they are undoubtedly speaking with a lack of knowledge about your condition. It is better to move on from that and look for someone else.


  1. Meet Someone Once You’ve Accepted Your Diagnosis

You should also understand your dating experience can become affected by the way you perceive your case. For example, if you go on a date while hating the reality that you are HIV positive, that emotion may roll off to the person you’ll meet and cause him or her to hate it too. This circumstance can then devastate you, to the point that you believe that no one will appreciate you due to the infection.

“If you diligently take your medicine and keep your viral load to below detectable levels, you will not be dangerous to your partner. We now have the scientific data to say you may be “infected” but you are not ‘infectious’,”Anthony S. Fauci, M.D reminds.

However, if you go out with someone when you are already at peace with your condition, chances are, you can care less if he or she rejects you. You know yourself; you are aware of what you can and cannot do because of the human immunodeficiency virus. Assuming those folks refuse to accept you, flaws and all, that is no longer your problem.

You Are Worthy Of Affection

The truth that people who are HIV positive should keep in mind is that rejection is not only common for individuals who have the infection. Even the healthiest folks on the planet tend to fail at meeting someone who wants to take them for who they are as well. That is part of the selection process, and you should be thankful to get away early from men or women who might not support you in dire situations. If you or your partner have HIV, you have to plan for education, a family, a career, and retirement,” Brad Hare, MD says, “just like everybody else.” So, don’t ever think that you are less worthy of affection than anyone.

What Causes Depression Among People With AIDS?

It is unimaginable for most people how mentally challenging it is to accept that you have acquired immunodeficiency syndrome (AIDS). “Clinical depression is the most commonly observed mental health disorder among those diagnosed with HIV, affecting 22% of the population,” Arnold Lieber, MD said. One source (who shall not be named) divulged that he thought that once the medication for human immunodeficiency virus (HIV) was completed, there would be no chance for the illness to develop into AIDS. When the man’s fear came to reality, he felt so helpless and hopeless in the next months that going out in public or meeting friends became impossible for him.



“In individuals living with HIV, depression may worsen existing disease states and lead to poorer health outcomes,” Bach Xuan Tran, Ph. D. and collaborators wrote. The thing is, reactions like the one above is no longer rare. AIDS is incurable like cancer, diabetes, and other diseases, and that is disheartening enough. What makes patients with this illness spiral faster down the depression lane than anyone, though, are the harsh facts that:

  1. Some Acquired It Through Violence

Getting raped is already a traumatizing experience that the victim might have to deal with forever. If the sexual abuse further results to him or her becoming infected with a sexually transmitted disease, the emotional and mental stress that the person carries can cause him or her to question many things in life. If nobody lends a hand or gives this individual an idea to receive counseling, he or she may feel as if there is no longer hope for him or her to live normally.


  1. People Think They Should Isolate Themselves

Even though AIDS is an illness that gets transferred to someone through vaginal or anal intercourse, some patients tend to feel shame and assume that their loved ones are better off without seeing them in person. They never go out unless their food supplies run out; they prefer to speak with others via phone instead of in person, in fear of transmitting the disease accidentally. However, the more isolated you allow yourself to be in this situation, the more the negative ideas will run in your head until a mental disorder takes over.

  1. A Few Drugs Have Depression As A Side Effect

The reality is that there may be victims of AIDS who had developed depression even when they only had HIV. Several studies show, after all, that there is a particular drug known as Efavirenz that has this psychological illness as one of its side effects. Doctors typically prescribe it along with other HIV medications. Hence, if the depressive thoughts are already in place before the AIDS diagnosis, the symptoms of depression are more likely to progress than not in the worst way possible.

  1. Their Life May Never Be Normal Afterward

Assuming a specialist confirms that a 25-year-old patient has AIDS, dealing and living with this truth may be harder for him or her compared to someone who acquires it during their 50s or 60s. Whereas the latter has perhaps fulfilled most of the activities in their entire bucket list, the former may merely be starting to get to it. The dream of experiencing a happily-ever-after might seem bleak in their mind as well, thinking that nobody will ever want to date a man or woman with AIDS. Not to mention, even if it is only a one-night stand, they tend to feel too ashamed to talk about it, and so they end up not meeting anyone.



In Conclusion

Depression is indeed common among people who get diagnosed with AIDS. “Clinicians attending HIVpp [HIV positive patients] should be able to evaluate possible signs of depression and refer symptomatic patients for psychiatric assessment whenever necessary,” Stylianos Arseniou MD and co-authors explained. No one can blame them for becoming helpless in such a situation wherein finding a cure for a specific disease is next to impossible. At times, the drugs and the people they mingle with may be aggravating the mental disorder as well.

In case you know an AIDS patient, you should offer that individual your full support or even an ear to listen to their woes. Beyond financial assistance, remember that these folks can benefit from the emotional or mental aid that you can provide. That – and not money – can lead them away from depression.